WHY I AM RETHINKING THE LANGUAGE I USE + HOW IT SHOWS OUR CHARACTER // biblical reasoning [expand + grow]


you guys know me. I write down things that I'm thinking about or feeling or dealing with. And, sometimes, that doesn't mean those things are pretty. Sometimes they're hard. Sometimes (like in my poetry) they're just a little too close to home. and for me, those are the ones that make me grow. it's not enjoyable, but still.

I really don't know what will happen after this post goes live. tbh, I've struggled for months to even make a draft.

guys. it's about swearing. about Christians swearing.

you see, long ago when freaking, suck, heck, and omg started trickling into people's/blogging vocabulary, I ignored it. But recently, there isn't a day that goes by without seeing it somewhere. I'm confused. I've heard the real swear words in my life -- they're awful similar to these.

The words I listed above don't seem to be considered swear words or even bad words by most. But..I do believe we all know they're substitutes for the real thing.

substitutions in a recipe are meant to be so close to the actual thing that you don't notice the change. the same with words.

Then, I came to the point of deciding myself when I had comments on my blog often with these words. I'll admit it - I've posted some. (I moderate my comments) But, there have been a lot that I haven't published.. I'm very cautious with what content I allow. for me, I want this blog to be a place where I would be comfortable with anyone to read it.

this whole has awakened to me that unwholesome talk can be much much more than harsh/bad/curse words. I'm guilty of falling into the sin of gossip, sarcastic comments that tear down rather than build up...and more... Bc it’s the motive. It’s your heart and what you are thinking behind words. I am not perfect in the least, but perfection in Christ is our goal...right?

It's hard to be different. but that's almost not the point anymore...it's coming to the point of Christ and how He would have us conduct ourselves...the words we say, things we do...how we glorify God!


I know people are going to tell me that I'm judging. Or that I have my own log in my eye compared to your twig. that is true. the fact is, as Christians we are not supposed to be of this world. Swearing is worldy...I have even seen the Lord's name taken in vain. for me, that's incredibly sad. I have people do that around me sometimes - at work, the store..it's still wrong but I know they are unsaved. And then, when I see Christians folding into that, I'm so disappointed. It is definitely becoming popular… and it’s becoming more important than the things God has told us.

tbh we talk about being like Christ but are we?

EPHESIANS 4:29-32
Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.  Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.

personally, I've been asking random friends "why do people swear?" these are majority answers

  • just to fit in/feel cool/impress people
  • it gets anger out
  • to explain feelings
  • bc that's how they were raised/it’s just what they do

Those things don’t necessarily make it right. In fact, they can’t. God clearly says in the 10 Commandments

You shall not take the name of the Lord your God in vain, for the Lord will not hold him guiltless who takes His name in vain.” (exodus 20 :7)

I’m pretty sure God measures that sin up the same as murder...and well...no motive can clear that and make killing right.

AND WOW JUST SAYING HERE I HAD SOME OF THE BEST CONVERSATIONS WITH THESE FRIENDS AFTER ASKING THE QUESTION. I also asked them their advice on if I should go ahead with posting this..they said yes. so THANK YOU FOR THE SUPPORT FRIENDS <3

The things we say speak clearly to the state of our heart. My mom has said this my entire life. It’s taken me a long time to get over the immediate “nah Mom!” to realize...yes, she’s right. It does matter. There are a lot of people around us daily who are not saved - who are not Christians - and our testimony may be the only change to plant a seed in their lives!
And… well, that may be in the form of you not actually saying anything, but being different. Actions often speak louder than words. But, if we are sitting there joining in with the wordly talk, how are we showing that Christians are different? How are we showing what Christ did for us?

It makes me so sad when I hear that Christians are becoming the same...or when non-believers state that, well, that’s when my heart sinks into my stomach. It’s time to face the facts. Often we think that we are young and the things we do/say don’t matter...well, tbh, they do.  They really really do.

Maybe we aren’t ready to change the entire world but how about the way we interact with our daily circle of people - our daily world. Today isn’t too late. I’m trying myself...I’m honest when I say it’s not easy. Things slip out...and then I beat myself up thinking “srsly Julia just get this right!”.
That’s when I cry out to God.

me beating myself up

Guys, I’m not telling you this bc I think I’m better - I’m telling you bc I care. Character is a HUGE deal. You’re known by it for the rest of your life. Christian character is even more important. Growth is constant, but only if you allow it.


this is 100% the longest post I've ever written, but more than that, this is the longest in the working post I've ever had. Please known that I'm not just typing these words to clear my conscience..or just to say them. I MEAN THESE THINGS. These are actions that I'm changing in my life.

So like I said at the beginning of my EXPAND + GROW series...this is going to be hard. This is difficult for me to post, but bc I’ve never let fear stop me before, I’m pushing ahead. God has definitely laid this post on my heart...He has a big big plain in store for each and every one of us..like isn’t that sooooo exciting?!?!

thanks for reading and just know that I'm praying for you <3

WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS? 
ALSO DO YOU HAVE ANY SNOW??

I WANNA KNOW WHAT YOUR CHRISTMAS TRADITIONS ARE // + a list of my family's AND UHM 18 DAYS UNTIL CHRISTMAS


well gee its getting really really really close to Christmas. like 18 days. ARE YOU READY?!?!?  (like I'm sorry for starting this post out with a shocker..can't really help it)

and btw, these pictures are from the christmas parade that we went to. it was so much fun - cold, but fun! we got hot cocoa and cookies afterwards too. LIKE THERE WERE GIGANTIC SNOW PLOWS LOL #thingspeopleinstateswithsnowlove 

since it's christmas times LETS TALK ABOUT THE FUN THINGS THAT EVERYONE LOOKS FORWARD TOO!!! 

SOME OF MY FAMILY TRADITIONS 



  • watch all the christmas movies -- it's a wonderful life, polar express, the nativity story, the grinch, charlie brown christmas
  • CHRISTMAS COOOOOOKKKIIIIEEEESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS
  • my siblings and I always try to decorate our bedrooms during the holiday season. this year they got super creative and made paper chains that legit go around their entire room o.o 
  • LISTEN TO CHRISTMAS VINYLS (new tradition bc we just got a record player this year) 
  • we always move our tree from our smaller room into the larger on Christmas eve so we can have a lot of space for the morning (plus we re-decorate it!) 
  • My grandpa takes me and my sisters Christmas shopping. then we eat out at olive garden MMMM and this year we are going to see THE NEW STAR WARS IN THEATERS AFTERWARDS EEEPPPP
  • when actually opening presents, we take turns. youngest to oldest in circles until the tree is emptied 
  • ALWAYS HAVE CHRISTMAS MUSIC PLAYING
  • ham is for christmas obv 
  • my little siblings always come into my room early on christmas morning and we wait together until my parents wake up. srsly they are so cute wrapped in their blankets and sleepy eyes and morning breath XD
  • DRINK WARM DRINKS AND SMELL YUMMY CANDLES AND SNACK ON CRUNCHY THINGS 

so as you can see, I really like traditions. like our birthday one of singing screaming at the top of your voice. it's fun. it's weird. but its family. AND THE BEST PART IS EVERYONE HAS DIFFERENT ONES (tho probably everyone watches charlie brown christmas lets face it.)


SO EEEP TELL ME WHAT YOURS ARE. cuz I kinda want to add a new one to my list. (btw sarah wants to be all christmas-y this year (shhh she's growing up and doesn't like it...just like me last year) and so this is me trying to be christmas-y lol) 

also this is the first time in my existence that I already have all my gifts wrapped + only have to find 2 more presents this far out from Christmas (btw how many times have I written Christmas in this post? lol) 

so remember when you guys asked me all sorts of questions? I decided a few of them will probably be turned into blogposts with my new series EXPAND + GROW and then some others, I will answer at the end of some random posts until they're all replied to!! SOOO TODAY I PICK FROM THE WONDERFUL JANE MAREE'S 

*dramatic pause*

H A V E   Y O U  E V E R  B R O K E N  A  B O N E  ??? 

lol about this one. TO BE SURPRISINGLY HONEST - no. I haven't. which I think is crazy insane. I've climbed our taller than our house pine tree for years..and have always been the dare me type personality. and it's not like I have crazy strong bones are something weird bc I don't drink milk?? XD

BTW random tid bit about me. I am really bad at wrapping gifts. *coughcough*

talk to you all later XD


SO WHAT ARE SOME OF YOUR CHRISTMAS TRADITIONS? 
LAST TIME YOU ATE A DONUT OR WENT TO YOUR LIBRARY? 

WHY DON'T WE ASK PEOPLE TO FILL OUT SURVEYS ON OUR PERSONALITIES ??? // [series] EXPAND + GROW


| WHY DON'T WE ASK PEOPLE TO FILL OUT SURVEYS ON OUR PERSONALITIES ??? |
this thought came to me out of the blue so randomly that even I was like
JULIA THAT'S A SCARY THING TO EVEN WRITE DOWN.

bc. uhm. like. criticism is hard enough to take, but legit making a form + having people fill it out??

FREAKY RIGHT. 


it's kinda like that thought of "man I wish I knew what that person was thinking right now." weeelll yeah, tbh, I don't think we have a clue of what we would be in for if that was even a thing. it would be terrifying.

I can tell who is coming upstairs in my house by the sound/heaviness of someone's footstep. I know who doesn't like ketchup and who always forgets to close that kitchen cabinet. When a holiday or birthday rolls around, it is actually really easy to pick out a gift (k cuz I generally do gag gifts tbh hehehe) 
but this is all bc I've spent time around my family and know them. like I could take a personality test for sarah and it would come out the same as what she did for herself. note: LEGIT WE'VE TRIED THIS AND IT WORKED LOL

let's face it. we all need anonymous criticism charts for ourselves. kinda like a thing that you pass out to your co-workers and siblings, parents, grandparents, lady at the post office, dude at the coffee shop, kid at the dentist...bc I would be super curious to see what people would say. 

"she's a scrooge."
"she talks too much"
"WHAT DID SHE DO TO HER HAIR?!"
"i guess she makes ok cookies."

like it would be fascinating and utterly freaky to know.

I've read the Little House on the Prairie for like...well for like forever. I always thought it was the cutest thing when Laura talked about their autograph books and calling cards. Not just bc they had cool things even back then (*coughcough* i.e. aesthetic, hashtags, photo editing, plaid...) but also bc in those autograph books they had their school friends write notes for each other. And, they had those written down forever.

personally, a good compliment could make me climb mount everest. but then again, a "this is stupid" can totally bring me down. I knew having people alpha read my book would be hardest for me in that area. It proved to be so. but still, I NEEDED THOSE CRITICS. I ASKED FOR THEM. I WILL GROW BC OF THEM. (even if it kills me lol)


so WHY DON'T WE ASK PEOPLE TO FILL OUT SURVEYS ON OUR PERSONALITIES ???
idk.
we are scared. we think people will just lie anyways. nobody has ever thought of it? to me, those are all true. But then again, maybe we should just get over the frivolous fear of having our bubble of "I'm not too bad" broken so we can grow a little. i don't think that's a half-bad thing.

this post is very much in the spirit of the upcoming new year and it's ALSO THE FIRST IN A NEW SERIES ---

EXPAND + GROW

[it's going to be all about personal growth and strengthening in God + things we need to learn how to do, to accept, and to in the end, fly. (cheesy maybe? but truthful yes.) it won't be a specific in order series, but there will be some interesting ones, I promise you ]

WELL THIS POST IS LONG ENOUGH I THINK LOL I should go...I have a few books I want to read. also its 51 degrees on the 2nd day of December EEP SO MUCH WARMTH XD

WOULD YOU HAVE SOMEONE FILL OUT A PERSONALITY SURVEY ON YOU? 
THOUGHTS ON THE NEW SERIES?? 

NOVEMBER :::::::::::: // it's over and here's my monthly post about what happened



W H A T  I N  T H E  W O R L D : 

me making cinnamon rolls "I hope these work out"
bree "well if they don't call them cinnamon croutons."

please tell me why I had two containers of play dough under my pillow at 8 am when it wasn't there when I went to sleep???
UPDATE : my littlest sister says under my pillow is her hiding spot.

anybody want some eggs?? legit.

 

- older sis "I cleaned my room until 4:88 and then I was done."
- me " 4:88??"
her : yeah! 4:88.......oh."


so I was listening to the radio and a song came on and I was like nah so I switched to my other fav station and the. same. song. was. on. ??????


apparently chickens can wear glasses?

k so the authors last name of a kids book was "wood" and the illustrators last name was "shack". I laughed out loud

my mom : "I don't really want to watch this show"
- older sis "me either!"
- me "I do"
- Sarah "I do too! It's two against...you guys...."
*super loud laughter all around*



i love jolly ranchers and even I THINK THAT WOULD JUST BE GROSS ^^^

ever try sneezing while laying down? Well don't. It hurts.

left my phone charger at work, got the wrong movie at the library, and major headache in one day.



k so I was listening to Christmas music on my laptop and suddenly there wasn't any noise so I refreshed the page over and over again...THEN REALIZED I PUT MY HEADPHONES IN LOL


so I was in the store and was like "hmm. where's my dad?" then I heard him sneeze and knew where he was. legit XD 


GUYS SANTA IS UNAVAILABLE THIS YEAR HELPPPPPPP ^^ 
(for real tho santa just isn't coming to the coffee shop around me. they've been naughty I guess) 

Sarah burnt oven mitts on the stove top, couldn't find the nuts, and grabbed lemon extract instead of vanilla all in a short period of time. Help

lets just take a moment and thank bob ross for his amazingness 



S O  M U C H  L O L :

me - "is that my pen?!"
little sis - "*nervous laugh* yeeaah..can I use it please?"


me - I can't believe you're 6!
- her "I know. I'm old now."

-Sarah "you got sandwich meat but no bread? We need something to put on the outside of that! I'll never trust you with shopping again."

Sarah - "is this little sis's birthday hot cocoa?"
- me "Idk. She wrote her name on the back. Check it."
- Sarah "yup. There it is"
SHES LIKE 6 PEEPS

- Sarah "don't tell me what to do. I'll throw *grabs grass* rice in your hair......"
- me "rice?"
Sarah - "well rice too if I had some!"


bro - "have you seen my pjs?"
me - "yup! They were walking away a few mins ago."

me at the dentist about to get a cavity filled


little sis gets scratch "you mean there are layers in my skin?!? *looks closely* how cool!"

- me "I'm going to the moon?"
- little sis "ah. To check to see if it's really made out of cheese?"

me "Sarah is this knitted ear warmer done?"
Sarah - "no. What do you think that kids have tortoise shell heads?"
me - "......"


8 yr bro - "you know what I hate? Growing up!"

- little sis about my pumpkin pie "hey. That looks actually good."

- little sis "I ate pop rocks. Wait. Are those real rocks?? I ATE ROCKS."


G E M S   Y O U   G O T T A   R E A D :


I can officially post this now without anyone screaming XD XD XD XD



WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS ON SNOW??
2 FUNNY/AWKWARD THINGS THAT HAPPENED THIS MONTH FOR YOU?

WHY I'M THANKFUL TO BE THANKFUL (2017) // i'm really tired but actually really happy + APPLE PIES MMMM


people tell me often "it's been one of THOSE years." I nod as if I 100% agree and then again....I don't. bc uhm i just can't possibly grasp it. I'd like to say its been one of THOSE years for me..but in a good way. I've learned SO much. 

  • about stress
  • and people
  • jobs  + job interviews 
  • fears 
  • money management/savings 
  • herbs (BC EEP I LOVE THOSE) 

like ya know, a billion +2 more as well. The list can't possibly be long enough. and here I am, thankful to be thankful. I am such a selfish person and feel like I forget to thank God. That's one of the things I'm learning about me in 2017. 


I saw this yesterday. read it <3


If God Should Go On Strike

How good it is that God above has never gone on strike,
Because He was not treated fair in things He didn’t like.
If only once, He’d given up and said, 

“That’s it. I’m through.
I’ve had enough of those on Earth so this is what I’ll do:
I’ll give my orders to the sun cut off the heat supply!
And to the moon–give no more light, and run the oceans dry.
Then to make things really tough and put the pressure on,
Turn off all the vital oxygen till every breath is gone!”

You know He would be justified if fairness was the game,
For no one has been more abused or met with more disdain
Then God, and yet He carries on, supplying you and me
With all the favors of His grace,  and everything for free.
Men say they want a better deal, and so on strike they go,
But what a deal we’ve given God to whom all things we owe
.
We don’t care whom we hurt to gain the things we like;
But what a mess we’d all be in if God should go on strike.
                       
 — Walt Huntley


SO MUCH TRUTH IN THOSE WORDS YA KNOW. I found a lot of conviction in it but also beauty! LIKE OMW LOOK AT THE GIFTS HE HAS GIVEN US AND HIS GRACE AND LOVE AND like air <3 I had to write it down bc like.. I don't want to lose that smack of true importance.

last weekend my sisters and I ran a craft booth. it was crazy. it was stressful. it was exhausting. but tbh it was really cool. that word sounds so lame in comparison..but still. I met some FANTASTIC humans. Random people..strangers whom I'll probably never talk to again but in the moment that we did - we connected! I really really loved that. 

and so, I'm thankful for that. Even in the stress, there was a gift! 


there have been a lot of gift exchanges going around. Even a Bible verse "chain letter" WHICH OMW IS BEAUTIFUL. I haven't had the time to participate in either...but I love that it's a thing. A lady I spoke to this week told me that society as a whole should be sad and broken at what it has become. I did that nodding thing again. but deep down, I was writing this poem. bc right now, this is what I can do. 

humanity is broken. That's why Jesus came. I'm thankful. <3

so yes. This is my thanksgiving post..this is my two cents about living and about growing. to me, I am thankful for where I've come from and where I'm going. cuz I keep waking up. I keep making it safely to work and back home again. I'm laughing and breathing and running with love. I'm living. 

BTW I MADE TWO APPLE PIES YESTERDAY AND A HUGE ONE TODAY I AM SO READY FOR MY 20 POUNDS OF MASHED POTATOES TOMORROW HBU?!?!?! 

btw btw go scream happy birthday to my dear little sis Sarah XD XD 

WHAT ARE YOU THANKFUL FOR ???? 
FAVORITE THANKSGIVING TRADITION/FOOD? 

WHAT REALLY IS A BEAUTIFUL DAY????? // thoughts as I drive to work (shh take a writing break. YOU NEED IT)


I tend to say its a beautiful day when I think it is. As in, whatever I describe as beauty.

I realized today how wrong that actually is of me. I don't walk around singing "ITS A BEAUTIFUL DAY" when I don't feel like it is.

that's totally not how I thought of myself until about 20 minutes ago. I was driving to work and saw my sunglasses. I was like
"oh man. It hasn't been sunny enough to use those. I miss the beautiful days"

.....................................................................

WAIT WHAT IN THE WORLD JULIA WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOUR LITTLE BRAIN?!?!


God created today. He made it beautiful. gee. IM ALIVE I THINK THAT SHOULD MAKE IT NICE ENOUGH. (jsyk i'm yelling at myself here k thx)
but bc it was gloomy and bc I felt like just staying home + reading instead of going into work. bc I felt like it wasn't beautiful yet. 

and then, when I got to my driving destination, I had one of my friends stop me to chat. that's beautiful.
I got to hear a little girl reading aloud (legit it was like her voice was filling the library) #beauty
laughter happened and my favorite songs came on the radio. my little siblings hugged me when I came home. I'd call that beautiful 

also this from Jessica's comment on my last post SRSLY GIRL THAT MADE ME SO HAPPY <3





so I guess I'm learning that a beautiful day doesn't depend on how I'm feeling or how I'm viewing the world that day. It's raining right now. That is beautiful too. I just haven't always been open about seeing that..

UPDATE 2 DAYS LATER :::: 

I drove into work today and it was sunny so I put my sunglasses on but they were all smudged. not what I was expecting. (am I going too deep in the metaphor of my sunglasses?? #sorry) 

+ chatting with my bestie on the phone for 2 hours is gold.


oh and wow. all the questions you guys sent me!! I'm thinking up ideas of exactly what I want to do with them. I have a few creative things rolling around *grins* 

ONE MORE THING. Siri just informed me that Christmas is in 40 days. I have a few gifts bought but LOL TIME IS FLLLLLLLLLYING BY. hbu?!?!?

k. I HOPE NANO IS GOING WELL FOR YOU. I bet that you're killing those stories and I'M SO PROUD OF YOU FOR THAT. keep going !!! <3


WHAT MAKES A DAY BEAUTIFUL FOR YOU ????? 
HAVE YOU STARTED CHRISTMAS SHOPPING? 


WHAT I'M THINKING ABOUT + DEALING WITH RIGHT NOW // and yes, I'm actually listening to christmas music now


I get terrified about tomorrow's. in the sense of not knowing what will happen. Or when change does occur, I get thrown off balance. With the recent time change (also the fact that I keep on forgetting to change my clock in my car LOL) I feel soooo messed up. Like, I went to work the other day and LEGIT I FELT LIKE I WASN'T SUPPOSED TO BE THERE. I was freaking out bc "wait. this isn't my shift? did I just clock in saying that it was 3 when it's really 4? or...IS IT 4 AND NOT 3?!?!?!" 

my face obviously showed my concern bc one of my friends was like "Julia what's wrong?"
BUT TO BE FAIR THEY STILL HAVEN'T CHANGED THE BIG CLOCK AT THE LIBRARY. it's totally messing with me.

but seeeeeeeeeeeeee. My world can get shaken that randomly. and well. I HATE IT.
(aka i really need to figure out that clock thing)

me every time i walk in at the library to see the clock still hasn't changed but i desperately need it to be done 

So, two days ago was our official last day of the farming year at the CSA. it was a HARD day. I worked 11 hours between there and the library so I didn't have much time for emotional thoughts. but man, now they're sinking in. and add to the fact it snowed yesterday (thankfully it melted omw.)

I'm SUPER excited to have a little more time for creative stuff tho! And, since my sister's + I are doing the Christmas event again this year, that time won't open up until after thanksgiving. THEN HELLO HOLIDAY SEASON. (yes. I have conformed. My record player is full force Bing Crosby)

then again, I've got a cold. I think I'll just blame it on the grimy kids books I shelve. *shudders*
ORRR maybe it was from last week when one of my co-workers car battery was dead and we stood out in the dark/rain jumping her car lol

(THANKS DAD FOR MAKING SURE I HAD THOSE JUMPER CABLES + HOW TO USE THEM)


but bc of said cold I'm enjoying my peppermint tea again. oh, how I love my peppermint tea. 
and my mom asked my to make a christmas list. In my entire life, I've never actually made one of those FOR REALS. I'm more like the "just give me the thing I didn't know I wanted" person.

I genuinely miss summer. the warmth. the swimming. barefoot-ness (I ran to the garage today when it was 9 degrees. not recommended)
yet I'm genuinely intrigued to see what is coming next.

also. I have come to realize how book addicted I am. *grins at multiple growing stacks on desk + bed + book shelves + night-tables*

One last thing. I'd like to ask you a favor. ask me a sad or happy or funny or sporadic or silly or serious or -------- question. 
I am curious to see how many of these things I can answer in either a blogpost or Q+A. AND IF YOU'RE COOL WITH ME USING YOUR NAME/BLOG LINK LET ME KNOW BC THAT'D BE GRAND

welllllll - I best be going. I am heading to work soon. it's only my second saturday shift ever. I don't think I can complain about that. *waves* 

WHAT ARE YOU THINKING ABOUT OR DEALING WITH???
WILL YOU ASK ME A QUESTION PLEASE?? thx
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