RESPECTING PARENTS AS A YOUNG ADULT

May 2, 2018

things change, like they are supposed to. But, tbh, there are some things that are meant to stay the same. Some rules to live by that should not be changed. I believe respecting your parents is one of those.

I've noticed that as teens hit that teen age, suddenly it's known as the rebellious stage. I'll be honest, I never appreciated that much. lol. It's not that I was perfect or anything..but hearing "oh man, all three girls at the teenager stage at the same time! HOW DO YOU HANDLE IT" repeated to my mom over and over again I was like.... "hey. I'm right here." legit. It frustrated me that a stereotypical wall was placed on me when I was growing and struggling, which for sure had its moments, but not bc I wanted it to be difficult.

My parents have always been very honest and welcoming with me. I've learned SO MUCH from their lives. they have taken time to show me what responsibility looks like. I 100% don't know how they do everything that they do. I MEAN JUST THIS WEEK I WAS STRUGGLING TO GET A STICKER OFF MY MUG AND MY DAD IS LIKE "here is some anti sticky stuff" I kid you not .1 second later the mug was clean.

me: "I would never had adhesive remover in my house..............."


re·spect
rəˈspekt/
noun
noun: respect
1.
a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements.
  • due regard for the feelings, wishes, rights, or traditions of others.


Respect doesn't mean that you fully understand why someone has decided so and so. 

Today I plugged my hair dryer in and was like "huh. they pay for the electricity don't they" and it's not like I haven't ever thought of it before..but bc I do pay for my car insurance, phone bill, gas, etc, I'm like "LOL I UNDERSTAND A LITTLE BIT MORE NOW" 

I guess I'm just learning that life is rough and beautiful, filled with unknown after unknown. I deeply respect my parents for showing me that it will be ok no matter what...and well, I guess I'm saying, parents don't need another stress added. Let's try to be more helpful and more supportive and less stereotypical.

thoughts on the topic?
any specific story to share relating to the stereotype teenagers / young adults get? 

18 comments:

  1. OH MY GOSH YES THANK YOU I RELATE SO MUCH TO THIS
    My parents are amazing and I admire them both so much. Most of the time I understand the rules they set for me, but other times I don’t. The older I get the more I realize it’s better to obey even when I don’t understand because they love me and have the best in mind for me — and also they’ve lived a lot more of life than I have haha. Plus they’re my parents and they already do so much for me, like paying for electricity and other bills like you said which is a pretty big deal. so why wouldn’t I try my best to make things as easy as I can for them? why wouldn’t I want to respect and obey them?
    Basically what I’m saying is I totally understand the frustration of people shoving the “oh you’re in the rebellious stage yikes” stereotype on teenagers. Yes, we’re growing up and we’re struggling and we’re learning and we’re far from perfect, but that does not mean we’re all trying to act rebellious and make life more difficult for our parents.
    anyway. haha sorry for my rant but great post :)

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    1. IM SO GLAD YOU RELATE THANK YOU SO MUCH !!!
      oh wow, okay, I love the word admire. It means so much and shows me that you know that your parents TRULY care and love you. hmmmmm yes, they have much more experience. also, you're right - any little thing we can do does help. xxx
      AMEN! the thing is, yes we are learning. and it's okay to have hard conversations with your parents, to cry, to fail, bc that is learning..keep going <3
      aww no problem. THANK YOU

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  2. This is such an important reminder, I try really hard not to live up to that stereotype too, I've developed so much more respect for my parents in the past couple years but this is still a really great reminder, love this post girl. <3

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    1. aw sweet Hannah! it is something I think our eyes open to the older we get for sure..and not a realization we should look over. <3 thank you xx

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  3. Yes, yes, yes, thank you. I am an adult, but I still live under my parents roof. My parents have rules and I follow them. My mom takes time out of her busy schedule to take me to work and pick me up because I can't drive yet. My dad takes me when he can. My parents work hard and deserve so much respect. At young adults, it is time we realize just how much sacrafice our parents make for us. Thank you for this post! <3

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    1. yes yes! and rules are a good thing! aww how sweet of your mom. Mom's always go above and beyond..it's amazing. mmm yes, truth right there. I think it's a good time to realize it bc now are at a different stage in our lives ourselves, where we can be supportive and helpful. thank you!!

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  4. I love to break the stereotype that teenagers are rebellious. :D It's so much fun, haha! And I definitely agree - it is one of aims to be a help and aid to my parents. I've even been there to listen to things that they're struggling with. I guess we need to remember that though they seem to have wonder woman and superman powers, they are like everyone else, and they need just as much love, encouragement and help as anyone else. But they also need our respect. :) (And I think that goes for any older people who meet/talk to.)

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    1. LOL! You made me grin bc lol I totally get that and feel similar! hmm yes, same. It's a very maturing process to be included in those conversations, isn't it? wow Gabby, you're so right! thank you for commenting <3 (aND YESSSSSSSSSSSS)

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  5. Amen, sister! The stereotypes places on teens drive me insane. Like, hello, we're not all like that. xD

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    1. agreed!! I don't think it's a helpful stereotype at all. not uplifting and encouraging or ANYTHING nice at all lol!!

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  6. YES YES YES so true!! While I will be the first to say, I'm not a "model child" or anything like that and I'm not perfect, I don't try to go against my parents every chance I get, like most people seem to think. And the older I get, and the more "adulting" I do, the more I realize how much they have to sort through to keep our family running!

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    1. yes!! so true!! It always confuses me when I get asked random questions about my parents and I'm generally like "that was rude" bc they always seem to be! It's kinda reaching that annoying point :P AMEN GIRL

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  7. Aw, loved this, girl!
    I'm often reminded just how much my parents do for me, how much is on their shoulders, and how much I still need them. <3
    I wish I could be a better daughter for them... *sigh*

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  8. I really liked this post! Horrible stereotype....Though it is something I struggle with sometimes.~Riley(14)

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  9. THIS IS SO GOOD. It's something I've been thinking about recently. It was actually something my health class in school covered a little, and it said something like "God has planned all the circumstances of your life out." And that includes your parents/family and everything. THIS IS SUCH AN IMPORTANT TOPIC

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  10. I loved this!
    My teen years were so difficult for me, emotionally. My family went through a lot during those days, right at a time when a girl is most sensitive. Let's just say, I probably complained and whined a lot more than I should have *rolls eyes*
    But, one thing I never wanted to do, was disrespect my parents. I loved them and truly believed they only wanted what was best for me.
    Like you said, I am not perfect, and I failed many times. But, it was never my hearts desire.

    I had a few friends who loved to test the waters. See how deep they could go before it reached over their heads. Let me tell you, it was hard. I hated watching them do things that I believed were wrong. And yet, it was also frustrating when they seemed to be the popular ones with others our age. I was the "shy girl". the girl "too scared" to disobey her parents. I had no desire to disobey them, and yet, I hated being the "odd one". The one looked down on just because I was trying to do what I believed was right.
    We have all grown now, and I watched my friends go through some very troubling times. As hard as those days were back then, I am so thankful that, with the help of my parents and Jesus, I was able to keep away from all the things "teenagers are suppose to do."

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