I've been thinking about this one for a long time. BC LOL I'M ONE OF THOSE OVERACHIEVING HUMANS. In fact I used to be more than I am now. I think I might have finally realized that I couldn't do everything that I wanted to commit to. so here I am...talking about saying NO. bc DUDE ITS SUPER IMPORTANT TO DO THAT.
during high school, I was determined to get good grades + do a lot of extra stuff..in school, the blogging world, write a novel, for the magazine I was apart of, holidays, etc. LIKE I LEGIT DID IT AND YOU KNOW WHAT I WAS?????
S T R E S S E D
like unbelievably so. It was intense. All I wanted to do was do the things right AND enjoy them. but legit that didn't happen bc I was trying to keep my head above the water. Instead I was struggling to keep up with the deadlines, wishing that I hadn't said "yes" to, and failing to enjoy anything at all. it became a pattern and finally I decided NOPE I JUST CAN'T DO THIS ANYMORE.
- I quit writing for the magazine.
- I haven't done any guest posting in the blogging world for a loooong time.
- I paused writing my novel for the time (which I have since finished)
+ focused on the iMPORTANT stuff. like
- spending time with my family + friends
- ending my novel the way I would like for the long run and not rushing it
- not over committing to the point of drowning
BASICALLY I HAD TO PUT MY FOOT DOWN AND TELL MYSELF NO MORE. it wasn't easy and it legit wasn't an over night thing I achieved. Mainly bc there were still so many things I wanted to do! I'm still like that. my mind runs dangerously fast and long compared to my energy levels.
one thing tho, I used to be really good at keeping up with my room...yeah. that doesn't happen anymore. Maybe I'm becoming too lax in certain areas??
I don't make new years resolutions bc they never end up coming into play bc LOL life happens (aka God does). If I had set massive goals in the way of what He had planned, I firmly believe I would have tried to juggle both, messing everything up in every way possible.
SAY NO TO STRESS. TO OVER COMMITTING. TO GIVING UP FROM THE LACK OF AIR WHEN FRIEND. YOU GOT THIS.
always push yourself to be better, to achieve the most of the moment you've been blessed with, but never push yourself off the cliff of insanity (can you tell what I've been reading??..), never achieve the satisfaction of giving up before failing.
IT WASN'T A WASTE OF TIME IF YOU LEARNED SOMETHING
Don't take these words and say "OH JULIA IS TELLING ME TO BE LAZY." no. It's much different.
I want you to be able to use every second of your life to the absolute max without the constant anxiety and stress of the unaccomplished list you carry with 24/7.
Maybe you don't need to say NO to the things people ask you to do but more to the stress you think you have to live with.
- detach from what destroys you.
thanks for being a bunch of brave souls. xxxxxx
do you find it hard to say no?????
how do you handle the stress of school + life??
Girl, so much yes.
ReplyDeleteIt’s so easy to get caught up in doing. And doing. And doing. And even more doing up to the point of overdoing. Productivity, am I right? XD
And it’s just so hard to step back and say you know what, no I can’t do that right now because of xyz.
Handling stress is hard too. Sometimes chocolate helps, sometimes screaming into your pillow works better, or even just taking a nap.
*hugs* thanks bro
Deleteyes isn't it?!?!? It's crazy how often I burn myself out and it's like "hmm yes. I got a lot done. but important stuff?.."
boy, do you understand me or what!! *covers face in shame*
mm. I think ice cream helps the most xD MISS YOU CHLOE MY TWIN
dude I go offline for like three days and you change your design?? I like it!
ReplyDeleteI'm also someone who finds it really hard to say no, especially to other people (extrovert + people pleaser = not a good combination). I've just needed to learn how to balance everything and not over commit, because otherwise nothing gets done. Learning that has been so so important!!
lol!! I changed it almost 10 days ago??? but THANKS <3
Deleteyusssss (I'm half extroverted so I GET YOU BRO) totally truth right there! I thrive when I have a reasonably long to do list - but if I only have one thing, then I procrastinate XD XD
IT SURE HAS <3
SAME SAME SAME. TO ALL OF IT. (I mean ok except for the part about not keeping up with your bedroom because I'm a clean freak)
ReplyDeleteLOL LOL LOL. thanks!! (hmpf. yes. I WAS GOOD. but then I gave up and kinda am ok with the mess? Idk what happened lol)
DeleteYesss I need to definitely work on this. Being busy doesn't equals productivity, so I think I need to learn to be productive and not just flying around doing nothing :P Loved how aesthetic this post was too!!
ReplyDelete*nods cuz same* dude that is so true!! I FORGET THAT STILL :P you got this thing <3 aww bro you're so sweet!
DeleteThis post! My "word for the year", as opposed to resolutions, for the very reason you make none, was Rest... which I feel entails everything you shared in this post, and so this was very timely!!!
ReplyDelete*hugs* I love the word of the year thing! I generally don't pick one, but there tends to be a word that I find really inspiring for a period of time and rn that would be "brave"
DeleteYOU REST K <3
SO AWESOME. Yeah...I don't have a hard time saying no (as long as I'm super sweet about it), but I have major confrontation anxiety. If someone does something to me...I like, can't do anything about it. BUT if someone teases my sister, DUDE YOU WILL REGRET THAT FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. xDDDD <3333
ReplyDeleteAW THANKS FRIEND. lol!! see, I'm the opposite. I find it harder to say no then to stick up for myself + LOL YOU'RE SO RIGHT I DO THAT WITH MY SIBLINGS TOO LOL. it's like I AM THE ONLY ONE WHO CAN TEASE EXCUSE ME XD XD
DeleteHAHAHA LOOOL! That's hilarious -- but when it comes down to siblings/friends, MAN can I get intimidating!!!! xDDDD xxx
DeleteDUDE THIS IS. SO. TRUE. It's really been something I've been struggling with, especially with adding new stuff to the mix now - like piano lessons and youth group and football. BUT THEN AGAIN, it's life, ya know? And it's really, really good? AMAZINGLY GOOD. But this is one of my BIGGEST trials - just trying to keep my head above water and get school done and hang with my friends and family, AND SOMETIMES I FEEL SO SO WORN OUT. But YESSS stress is a choice and I rly need to take a deep breath and relax and enjoy all this craziness and...do my best, while not thinking I won't get it all done and letting it weigh me down. #ineedtoworkonthis (basically this is a whole post about the same thing you told me like a month ago when I was saying I was stressed...aka, STOP LOL. You were right then tho and you're right now hehe)
ReplyDeleteDUDE YOU ARE SO AWESOME K <333333333333
Deleteyes bro. MAN YOU ARE GONNA BE SO BUSY. (and I'm totally jealous about the piano lessons xD) yes. SO good. and so GOD. duuuuuuuuuuude don't get worn out!!!! MMM YES. ENJOY THE CRAZINESS GIRL!!! you got this. You can do it <3
(heheheee I actually made this post draft back in November and finally felt that I had the right words for it..) LOVE YOU
Very important reminder. Gosh it's so difficult to prioritize sometimes! The topic of stress has really come up a lot for me over the past few days. I don't think I'm stressed but are these constant reminders trying to say otherwise?!
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Simply Me
man, isn't it?!?! I feel you! It's a good feeling when you do tho..you know? I sleep better. lol! hahahah!! I must say, I often don't know I'm stressed!!! Maybe that's the case for you? If so, DON'T WORRY BRO <3
DeleteOHHH THANKS SO MUCH xxx
AAAHHH THIS IS SO RELATABLE. I am a terrible over-achieving over-committing stressed human bean and I need to stop :P I feel that I've gotten better recently, but I KNOW that I can try harder to stop doing so much (kinda a paradox...).
ReplyDeleteTHANK YOU FOR THIS POST!!
~audrey caylin
P.S. the new design is gorgeous <3
P.P.S. I left you a message in hangouts. No rush :)
AHH YOU RELATE!!!! <3 duuuuuuuuude you and I are alike! XD hmm yes, I totally get you. and boy, are you right lol!!! I never really thought of it that way.
DeleteTHANK YOU FOR THE COMMENT
aww thanks
OH K I'LL GO LOOK <3
Ack this was super encouraging and I have a hard time saying no to things as well. It's like "oh I can add that other thing into my schedule" and then I actually try and it's like "lol ya nope" :P Thanks for the encouragement tho, that it really is ok to say no; even healthy sometimes.
ReplyDeleteThank you for writing <3
aww dude I'm so glad. <3 haha!! that ever growing list of things you can add - I GET THAT. It's always a good thing that you want to do.. something that is exciting and fun, but MAN when you're oversdoing it and overstresssing IT ISN'T FUN ANYMORE.
Deletethank you for commenting <33333
I ABSOLUTELY LOVED THIS LIKE YES!! Thank you for this wonderful post that I oh so needed at the moment. :)
ReplyDeleteAWWWW YOU ARE SO SWEET GIRLIE *hugs you* I'm so glad it was helpful friend <3
DeleteLove this. Yes, I do have a hard time saying no. Often I say yes. And most of the time I kill myself completing all the things I said I would do. I've died many times ;p I've had to learn to say no a few times this last year just because I don't like *painful* death. But it's all good, cause I'm learning just what I can handle (and what I can't).
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aww thx bro. ohhhhhhhhhhhh man, so same!!! lol!! DON'T DIE! You're awesome, don't injury yourself XD XD lol I gotta say, I love your sense of humor over this. ;) That's a super good thing to learn - bc stress doesn't mean you shouldn't do something, just that we need to learn what time is best to commit to more XD
Deletethanks for your comment!!