ALL ABOUT FRIENDS [sorta]

I wish I could tell you that I had the secret to friendships being loveliness and lasting forever + ever. but if I did I would be a superhero, which I'm not..sorry. tbh I'd love it for myself too lololol

I could go into a long detailed list about how other people/friends do certain things that suddenly make you feel like you have a -108290458289 IQ level and...well THAT JUST ISN'T COOL. but truthfully, I'd like to focus on how we can be a good friends in return. I've struggled with the thought process of "oh well, why should I be the friend who does the nice things or says the nice things when they just sit there doing nothing" for a really long time.

the thing with having friendships is eEVVERRYONE is DIFFFERENT.  there can't possibly be a cookie cutter template on how to have the perfect friendship (LOL AND DON'T ASK FOR 5 EASY STEPS) bc we as humans are individuals with ideals, goals, hidden agendas (or not), blessings to share, lessons to glean from and give, and most importantly, feelings.

myself being a friend to A LOT of amazing peeps out there, I know there is a special something that we tend to connect on.

for me it might be :

• Jesus (tbh it's usually Him) 
• things we have in common. ie. writing, reading, goals 
• a conversation where a glimpse of the heart shows and I'm like OK WOW I GET YOU
• food lololololol

the list would go a mile if I let it. but you get the gist. in fact, you probably know it of yourself.

also BEWARE bc the words that come out of your mouth can be heard way different than the way you heard them in your head. listen to your tone, pay attention to the reaction, and most importantly, be aware of the trauma your friend has endured. indeed. (bc lol you could be talking about ice cream and that might be something that freaks them out or something (OH SADNESS AM I RIGHT))

be the friend you'd love to have.
aka treat others as you want to be treated.
or "love your neighbor as yourself" -Jesus

truthfully, it can't be all that hard. obviously don't be put all of your energy into a friend who takes enjoyment out of bullying/teasing/putting you down - but don't give up on that friend. you may be the only one willing to do that.

p.s. BE ON THE LOOK OUT FOR THE SURPRISE THIS WEEKEND. I'm hoping to have it ready + a blogpost explaining it by Sat. or Sun. SOOO EXCITED. literally flailing.

THOUGHTS ON FRIENDSHIPS + SOMETHING YOU'VE LEARNED??? 
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